{"id":1625,"date":"2022-06-25T10:47:03","date_gmt":"2022-06-25T10:47:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.zogue.com\/blog\/?p=1625"},"modified":"2022-06-25T10:48:45","modified_gmt":"2022-06-25T10:48:45","slug":"being-positive-about-something-that-was-negative","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zogue.com\/blog\/2022\/being-positive-about-something-that-was-negative\/","title":{"rendered":"Being Positive About Something That Was Negative"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a class=\"img\" href=\"https:\/\/www.zogue.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/westway-botley_16554765009_o.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-medium wp-image-1626\" src=\"https:\/\/www.zogue.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/westway-botley_16554765009_o-300x199.jpg\" alt=\"Botley\" width=\"300\" height=\"199\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.zogue.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/westway-botley_16554765009_o-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.zogue.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/westway-botley_16554765009_o-768x509.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.zogue.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/westway-botley_16554765009_o.jpg 1024w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>I have written in a lot of diaries over the years. Sometimes they hardly even define a point in my life as anything in particular. Sometimes I will look up a bit of my life I have strong memories of, and be disappointed that I didn&#8217;t write much down at the time that tallies with what I can recall. Sometimes when I read them all I can see is my little canoe getting closer and closer to the Niagara Falls of the soul, over and over again.<\/p>\n<p>But on reflection of certain times, I do think it is possible to be positive about something that was negative.<\/p>\n<p>For example, consider the English phrase &#8220;look on the bright side&#8221;.<\/p>\n<p>When things go wrong, we&#8217;re often encouraged to consider the positives to try and make the best of things. Looking on the bright side of a bad situation.<\/p>\n<p>Sometimes when it&#8217;s not even possible to define a point in your life as anything in particular, it still presents a reality. In these situations it is interesting to reflect on <em>what it wasn&#8217;t<\/em> when you are trying to work out <em>what it was<\/em>.<\/p>\n<p>For example I can now nostalgically look back to a time in my life when the entirety of how I spent my time was best defined as how I didn&#8217;t spend my time any more. Ties had been cut in my life and I had moved house a long way away from everything that I was familiar with, and I could not go back.<\/p>\n<p>I still had to be alive in that moment and when I look back, so much of what it was about was what it was not, and what I wasn&#8217;t doing.<\/p>\n<p>I was not where I was familiar, I was not really where I wanted to be, I was very much out of time and out of place. Just because of the sheer difference in life between what I knew and where I was, I ended up doing a lot of things that weren&#8217;t what I had done before.<a class=\"img\" href=\"https:\/\/www.zogue.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/botley-sunset_16087283130_o.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignright size-medium wp-image-1628\" src=\"https:\/\/www.zogue.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/botley-sunset_16087283130_o-300x199.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"199\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.zogue.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/botley-sunset_16087283130_o-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.zogue.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/botley-sunset_16087283130_o-768x509.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.zogue.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/botley-sunset_16087283130_o.jpg 1024w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Slowly, from what it wasn&#8217;t, what it was revealed itself as something new, and looking back I can see how I was building something new by not being able to be who I was before.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s an odd thing really &#8211; I feel both sad and proud of what was going on. It&#8217;s just life I guess, getting on with it and all that. <\/p>\n<p>Maybe you just had to have been there.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I have written in a lot of diaries over the years. Sometimes they hardly even define a point in my life as anything in particular. Sometimes I will look up a bit of my life I have strong memories of, and be disappointed that I didn&#8217;t write much down at the time that tallies with [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":7,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[270,52,58],"tags":[284,286,126,285,134,288,287],"class_list":["post-1625","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-hiraeth","category-memories","category-writing","tag-memories","tag-negative","tag-nostalgia","tag-positive","tag-rememberance","tag-rethinking","tag-thinking"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.zogue.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1625","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.zogue.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.zogue.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.zogue.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/7"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.zogue.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1625"}],"version-history":[{"count":6,"href":"https:\/\/www.zogue.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1625\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1633,"href":"https:\/\/www.zogue.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1625\/revisions\/1633"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.zogue.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1625"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.zogue.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1625"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.zogue.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1625"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}